To continue following the previous article, we give you here the keys necessary to flirt with finesse, without even forcing yourself to do anything. Are you often told that it is necessary to have complex strategies, which play on the levers and the psychological biases of women? That you have to put yourself in someone else's shoes and read hundreds of hours of books and other training to become a master in seduction... or even be able to seduce by simply being comfortable.
It's not silly. A bit of psychology is fundamental, to be able to detect what the person in front of you has in mind when they look at you when you interact with them, etc... But that's not all: emotional empathy is the key, in terms of seduction but also in terms of relationships. This is why it is also very important to have some notions in the behavioral psychology of men and women. It is necessary to be curious and to want to know more about the feminine character, to be able to flirt (and that it is useful for something).
The good news is that psychology is not everything (far from it)! And we explain why just below.
The flirt - touch
If you are indeed (as said before) a shy person and a little reluctant to engage in conversation(s) with people of the opposite sex (whether you are sexually attracted or not), then this crucial step may seem a little difficult for you. to cross. And yet: if you do not cross it… You are not likely to achieve much. Ask our Bordeaux escort girl for example they prefer more than 100 times a person who appears on them, who approaches with charisma while being at ease. Women in general always prefer this type of men, and it's instinctive: women like men, what we generally want is confidence, at ease in society. It's necessarily more attractive… And that's why the barrier of touch is important. This barrier, if crossed, proves that you are attracted to the person. Whether it's a gentle hand on the shoulder, a slightly more frank touch on the hip or the belly, intentional or accidental, it always reveals a small part of the feelings you have for the other person. If you “accidentally” initiate physical contact while walking next to the person you are lusting for, for example, it's a small form of connection, and it will give at least a fraction of extra attention (the one you're looking for, for example). And there, the psychological aspect comes into play: if during your attempt to get closer, the person responds by moving, by getting closer to you, likely, they are also interested in you.
Use your body language to communicate your intentions
As the saying goes “show don't tell”: actions speak louder than words. If you're interested in someone, it might come naturally to you, but communicating your feelings, your intentions (verbal and non-verbal) is also a big part of flirting. It's all about knowing how to communicate your intentions non-verbally because as you might suspect, non-verbal language represents more than 90% of language... Yes, communication is above all a matter of the body and no words! Here's how to communicate your feelings and your intentions towards a person… Without coming across as a weird guy and having to say “I like you” when it's not (at all) reciprocated. Already, a basic rule that works as much for relationships as it does for your job interviews: avoid a withdrawn and distant attitude. In other words: arms and legs crossed convey a defensive, disinterested and distant image of you. Of course, that doesn't mean that you have to do anything and try by all means to capture the attention of the other. But with an open, welcoming posture that refers to invitation and availability, with your body bent over or completely facing the person, you will stand out, more than the others, and better.
flirting by emoji
This one is a bit tricky. It is a double-edged blade. Compared to direct and frontal communication, when you text, you can't decode your body language, your facial expressions, the tone of your voice, etc. That's why if you don't have a bit of experience and of understanding in the “SMS flirt game” you can quickly fall by the wayside and be forgotten or even worse: ghosting. A fairly simple way to succeed in making yourself understood is to use emoji as much as possible, to clarify the meaning of your sentence, whether it's a joke, an insinuation, etc. For example, in response to a hello playful, you can use a very smiling smiley, which will make him understand that “I am very happy to receive this message from you”. Now try not to get too carried away with the emoji, since sometimes it can get quite cumbersome, or even produce the opposite effect of what you want: with the abundance of emoji, the meaning of your sentences can be distorted and reversed. And therefore, making your discussion confusing and a bit heady.
A woman who half laughs in your...
Use humor to flirt… That's the basics. But it can be a bit difficult. Why is it good and does it work? Because it's something that will instantly make you more attractive (if it's subtle jokes) and will make your interviewer more comfortable and able to joke with you. It's a big cliché, like the phrase “woman who half laughs in your bed”... And yet, there is a grain of truth. Because it sends the message that you have a certain degree of emotional intelligence and that you are a pleasant person to have around.