Usually, orgasm, or climax, is considered to be something known and fully defined. It is simply the goal, the ultimate step in sexual pleasure. However, it is much more than that, as you will see by reading the rest of this article ...
1- Sometimes, the orgasm can go completely unnoticed
Sometimes it happens that men ejaculate without even noticing it! They don't feel any pleasure or emotion… and our Rennes escorts can attest to that! This phenomenon is more common in women, who may interpret orgasm as something else: spasms and twitching, for example. To overcome this, and get to better feel the explosive sensations of pleasure, the work of the perineum can help to control and feel the pleasure in a better way!
2- Why crying during orgasm is not so shameful?
We (almost) all know someone to whom it happened. Not necessarily a friend, but an acquaintance, or a friend of a friend… in short, that doesn't only happen in the movies. And for good reason: The secretion of hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins will exacerbate emotions as much as possible, which will make the most sensitive people really on edge. According to a survey of more than a thousand men in Australia, 4 in 10 of them have already experienced a period of sadness after sex. And among them, 4% regularly suffer from a feeling of emptiness, antipathy, annoyance, irritability, or no longer want to be touched. This phenomenon (quite common even in the West) can be explained by the explosive cocktail of hormones generated during love, but also by the effect and the emotions that will be felt and transmitted during love. Finally, orgasm can transform a void into an even greater void ...
3- The untouchable orgasm
In men, waking up often leads to an erection (called morning erection). In fact, boredom and anxiety can lead to an erection. And so, an ejaculation. It's natural, don't worry. Scary, but natural.
4- The last orgasm before death
In fact, in the game of weird and bizarre statistics, no one could really win since they can be found on every possible and imaginable topic. But imagine that orgasm can lead to… death. And yes, that's almost 0.8% of heart attacks that happen during sex! This is also why doctors recommend playing sports and having sex, for people with heart disease.
5- Nobody feels it the same way
Have you already been described as having an orgasm by saying “I saw the stars” or “I felt like a heat in the basin”? In fact, we often talk about orgasm, without really knowing and above all, without knowing that it is very different for everyone. It's kind of the ultimate goal we're talking about, without really knowing what it really represents, or what it looks like… According to scientific studies carried out in 2014, 7% of women say they have never had one. Orgasm. In addition, only 18% manage to enjoy sexual intercourse with penetration (according to a survey carried out in 2019 by Lelo, world leader of intimate accessories for adults). In fact, having and getting an orgasm can become a real obstacle course, and in the end, we are not all equal in this endless quest ...
6- The unknown reasons for the (bitter) failure to reach orgasm
In general, we attribute the failure of the orgasm to the man who “does it wrong”, or more simply, to the lack of attraction between the two parts. Even if that can be an explanation to remember, it is far from sufficient. There are a lot of other explanatory factors, such as knowing the other (do I know my partner's body well enough) for example. Some practices work better for some people: some women are fans of cunnilingus, others hate it. I advise you to test the cunnilingus, to see if the woman may have a predisposition to orgasm via the clitoris rather than via the vagina. In any case, here are some additional elements that are not very well known:
- Complicity: if you do not know your partner, she will tend to be less successful in letting him go necessary for orgasm.
- Not enough stimulation: foreplay is not an option. We say to ourselves that it is optional, but sexual intercourse is not supposed to be only a penetration: hug, kiss, lick… In short, do things well, so that your partner will be aroused to the maximum even before the penetration.
- Knowledge of the body: if you want to give pleasure… you have to know what makes someone happy!
7- The real meaning of the expression “multiple orgasms”
Although the race to orgasm is difficult for some, some people are luckier than others who can experience multiple orgasms.
Oftentimes, it is women in particular who have multiple orgasms. How? 'Or' What? Simply by feeling an orgasm at two different levels at the same time, for example, vaginal and clitoral, which will have a much more intense impact on the body.
First of all, try to simultaneously stimulate the different erogenous zones of your partner (hence the importance of knowing your partner's body well)
Here's how to do it (in theory):
- If you are alone, use a sex toy or your fingers to penetrate and stimulate the vagina and mimic the “come over here” sign. You can also use your penis to try and stimulate the same area.
- On the other hand, start to stroke the clitoris (using lubricant can be very beneficial to feel more pleasure and be more stimulated). You can even use a vibrator for the clitoris, or a dildo specially created for clitoral stimulation.
- Another option is to use your fingers inside the vagina, while you are performing cunnilingus. Or, when you penetrate your partner, you can use your fingers at the same time to stimulate another area.
8- Drug consumption can reduce orgasms
In fact, regular use of medications (including treatments for anxiety and depression) has been scientifically proven to negatively influence sex life, gradually decreasing the frequency and intensity of orgasms.